*To All The Women In My Life - Please Watch This*

*To All The Women In My Life – Please Watch This*

by Amanda Blain
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In this very touching YouTube by Dove, women were brought into a room and an FBI sketch expert drew them based on how they described themselves… "big forehead, pointy chin, etc" Then people they just met were asked to describe them. The two drawings side by side clearly showed how some Women today tend to be their own harshest critic.

I created  – http://www.girlfriendsocial.com –  5 years ago, because women often feel isolated and alone. I understand how hard women can be on themselves, without the support of others. I wanted to create a place where women could go and feel unjudged, connect with their female side and make new friends. At 100k of women later, I am happy to have helped support countless women find the support they need to not feel so alone. I love how much work Dove has done in the area of female self image.

Read more in the Marshable article by   – http://mashable.com/2013/04/15/dove-ad-beauty-sketches/

And take the time to watch the youtube. – 
http://youtu.be/XpaOjMXyJGk

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Bob Schlaefer
Bob Schlaefer
10 years ago

Wow……just wow.

Sherrie von Sternberg
Sherrie von Sternberg
10 years ago

that was beautiful…I was very impressed with how like the women the final images turned out to be…the ones from the people describing them.  and they were/are beautiful in their own way, each of them.   wonderful

Amanda Blain
Amanda Blain
10 years ago

Exactly +Sherrie von Sternberg … its so clear how the first pictures don't look like them at all… Very touching.

Natalie Villalobos
Natalie Villalobos
10 years ago

 Fantastic share. Thanks the other women  and +Maria Stepanov Sommerfield for sharing as well!

Bob Schlaefer
Bob Schlaefer
10 years ago

I think this plays out in both genders more than we think.

vanchien luu
vanchien luu
10 years ago

You

Steven Nyberg
Steven Nyberg
10 years ago

Women are everybody's worst critic. Why should it be any different. Women are usually critical because of a terrible feeling of obsolesces. It's up to them to herald a new day of acceptance for them.

sara alves
sara alves
10 years ago

good nigth

Clyde Davidson
Clyde Davidson
10 years ago

To all the women in my life, please watch this.

Jessica Ramsey
Jessica Ramsey
10 years ago

thanks for sharing this inspiring video. I think all women have so much beauty and they don't always seem to notice their features…

Ese Ibi
Ese Ibi
10 years ago

All women r beautiful

Hilly John
Hilly John
10 years ago

A woman is most beautiful in the kitchen.

Aleksandar Petrovic
Aleksandar Petrovic
10 years ago

Yes, they are all beautiful and offer the purest love we know; the gift and of life. 🙂

Helena Smith
Helena Smith
10 years ago

A woman is most beautiful when is is not a slave to the kitchen or to anyone.

Amanda Blain
Amanda Blain
10 years ago

Ugh. Really? Even on this? … sometimes internet

Amanda Blain
Amanda Blain
10 years ago

 … and that is a much better title than the one I had…. Updated 😀

Trevor McNicol
Trevor McNicol
10 years ago

This is a cool video and makes a great point.

I just want to draw attention to the fact that this was not a blind test in that the artist knew who he was drawing based on the first or second person description. Also he presumably knew the point of the exercise. I would love to see this with a truly blind experiment in which the questions are asked in a way that the artist does not know if its the subject or the described of the subject and the artist does not know the point.

rhili mbarek
rhili mbarek
10 years ago

Amanda Blain hallooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Jimbo Rizza
Jimbo Rizza
10 years ago

And for the win! And only 12 comments in. Momma has gotta be proud! Let her know I need a grilled cheese.

The most attractive aspects of a woman can never be drawn or sketched. A negative personality cannot wear makeup, fancy heels, or designer dresses.

Outer beauty is perception, but inner beauty is transcendental and will be displayed as an entire picture regardless of individual features to those who want to see the forest for the trees.

Aaron Brown
Aaron Brown
10 years ago

Men should watch it too, but we have known this about women for ages and they never listen.

Amanda Blain
Amanda Blain
10 years ago

Sure men should watch it too…. Not all women have these issues though.  and some women listen. 🙂

Mike Gabelmann
Mike Gabelmann
10 years ago

While you could say that, "People are their own harshest critic", in my experience women are tougher on themselves then men.

Saffy Saffybt.
Saffy Saffybt.
10 years ago

Im fan of dove sinced 8 years now.i used it from head to toe products. That is Y ilove dove.thanks for sharing Amanda U rock!

Seungki Lee
Seungki Lee
10 years ago

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Aaron Brown
Aaron Brown
10 years ago

I try and tell my female friends how beautiful they are, none of t hem believe me.

T.kailayapillai. Sundaramoorthy
T.kailayapillai. Sundaramoorthy
10 years ago

canada is a very good place

travel.com.au
travel.com.au
10 years ago

cool concept

Aleksandar Petrovic
Aleksandar Petrovic
10 years ago

@.-

Andrew D'Albor
Andrew D'Albor
10 years ago

Really cool concept

Martin Brochhaus
Martin Brochhaus
10 years ago

Haven't seen it, yet. Brilliant idea. I immediately wonder: Will they also let the sketcher draw the same person as described by someone else sitting in front of that person, seehing her clearly? Because if the image still doesn't look like her it simply means that even an FBI sketcher can't draw proper faces from just an oral description.

I mean… doesn't that process usually involve you sitting next to them saying "No, no.. that's not quite it, I remember him looking more fierce. And the nose is bigger."

Critic or not, I don't think I would be able to accurately describe how I look like so that someone can draw it…

EDIT: Now I saw it. As I said: Brilliant 🙂

Dana Littleford
Dana Littleford
10 years ago

That is amazing. MUST share. I'm always amazed at how my female friends simply don't recognize their outward beauty, I suppose due to self-esteem issues arising from their childhoods (or idiot boyfriends). Thank you SO much for posting this.

Rob A
Rob A
10 years ago

Very interesting

Amber Homeyer
Amber Homeyer
10 years ago

Very Very Nice.

Emmanuelle Baez
Emmanuelle Baez
10 years ago

wow!

Caleb Murphy
Caleb Murphy
10 years ago

emails to every girl i know

James McBride
James McBride
10 years ago

I've long felt a good self image, being "comfortable in your skin", is one of the most attractive qualities a woman can possess.

Robert Berkeley
Robert Berkeley
10 years ago

I thought this was going to be really hokey when I saw the title and watched the first minute. It was really exceptionally well done though.

Steven Nyberg
Steven Nyberg
10 years ago

I just can not believe anybody has taken this seriously. The video illustrates the absence of actual presence in reality. I liked the artist's drawing in half the instances. The other half (all were of his interpretation of their interpretation) were way off the mark. The reality of our own self-appraisal is very very thin using pictures…the physical only. The substance of such a test can not be known or understood with this emotion clashing with reality. None spoke from the heart where real definitions and explanations of who they actually are or how they truly conceive of themselves could be understood.

Steven Nyberg
Steven Nyberg
10 years ago

I'm annoyed at how nonchalant most answers or responses were. You received praise…do you post for the reason of self-exultation?

Tyne Swedish
Tyne Swedish
10 years ago

Beautiful! Too bad they test on animals for no real reason. But this was very powerful.

Autumn Byrd
Autumn Byrd
10 years ago

A message we all need to hear:)……

Reno Albanez
Reno Albanez
10 years ago

very elaborate skit to prove a very well known fact… too much time not enough common sense…

David DyVyZyO
David DyVyZyO
10 years ago

Very touching. I kept thinking to myself,I..
no probably men couldn't do this.

Clyde Davidson
Clyde Davidson
10 years ago

Steven, I think you are reading too much into it – that isn't there. Yes, it doesn't show everything in every step of the drawing process, but that is probably irrelevant. The producers obviously think it tells the story accurate. I'm a 57 year old man who has been studying women for a long time. They ARE focusing on the physical only. They ARE exaggerating their perceived "flaws". They ARE looking at themselves very negatively. They don't see themselves as beautiful based on what is constantly pushed in their faces.

We live in a media culture that emphasizes the extreme beauty, while ignoring all other levels of beauty. Women are inconstantly comparing themselves to an irrational level of beauty. Hence they are focusing on where they don't measure up and where they consider themselves as NOT pretty. This video show very clearly that they typically focus on the negative and exaggerate it out of reality to how beautiful they really are.

To me the most telling part of the video is the looks on these women's faces when they see the difference between the two drawings. The emotion display is very obvious that they see into themselves how negatively they have been viewing themselves and how it differs from what others see. The sad part is that they are shocked and surprised by it. That's what is causing those tears.

I think this is a fantastic message that is absolutely spot on. Women are beautiful and are way more beautiful than they think they are. This points out very clearly that they don't think they measure up to the standards for beauty and that is completely wrong. This attitude is completely wrong and I applaud Dove for bring that message to women.

Amanda Blain
Amanda Blain
10 years ago

^^^ This…  I think you are missing the point too  ….

The women in this video were touched by the fact that "that big forehead, round cheeks" etc…  no one else saw…  The point was very clear in the pictures… no one else saw those flaws that the women pointed out about themselves.

Clyde Davidson
Clyde Davidson
10 years ago

David, I think men who understand women (as much as is possible), can deliver the same message. To some extent, it is better than men actually relay this message. Women don't necessarily believe other women when they are told they are beautiful. (Women pump each other up.) It's the message from men that really matters. So, honest, open, and frank telling women that they are beautiful is very important from men. (It helps they it isn't in a setting where we are viewed as hitting on them at the same time.) In short, women would believe this message much more from a man than a woman. We just have to keep telling them that it's true.

Christian Grenfeldt
Christian Grenfeldt
10 years ago

'No' woman who think they have flaws and are unhappy with their body will listen to what a single man says. Sure they will listen and say thank you.. And it will make them happy to hear it. But it won't change anything.

Back in the days when I could draw I sometime drawed a woman's face when I were traveling few hours on the train. I picked a girl with the body language which showed they didn't think they were beautiful themselves. And I drawed her as i saw her.
They almost always cried a tear of happiness when I gave it to them.

Erica Marcum
Erica Marcum
10 years ago

  I don't necessarily agree with this….because as in the commercial and as countless others before me have already said, WOMEN are their HARSHEST CRITICS!!! 

That point is driven home  in this experiment as each  woman was introduced to one of the other women and then asked what  she thought of the other woman's features. So it is actually more of an honor when another WOMAN says you are beautiful than to hear these words come from a man!! 

Also because men are sometimes sooooo conniving and a woman can never be sure what a man's intentions are as far as if he is being truly genuine. Where as another woman will most likely give you true honesty. 🙂 

Thanks for this post @Amanda blain

David DyVyZyO
David DyVyZyO
10 years ago

Point well taken Clyde. Any of the women I've ever known. Of course that sn't many.

hiroyuki tsuji
hiroyuki tsuji
10 years ago

Afternoon (^_^) ok just next part-time go

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