*What is Love…*

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:) Why is it so difficult to date in this day and age? 

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  1. One of the main problems is we live in a society where the emphasis is put on self, in relationships it becomes about "we" and alot people can't adjust to it, just my opinion after watching both of my sister in laws last relationships go down in flames

  2. I have been with the same lady going on twenty years, 18 of those married, the first couple of years it was a balancing act trying to find common ground. Eventually we found it and got into sync. I will admit that for along time i was very self center, now i am older and my outlook has changed on life and relationships, today my way of thinking is " the needs of my wife outweigh my wants"

  3. We live in an age where women want equal rights in pay in the business sector but not equal responsibility to initiate foundation building in the personal sector. 
    Most women are still being programmed to wait for a man to tell them whats going to happen instead of women being an equal partner from the start in forming a plan of action.
    Dating is difficult because people are not being honest with each other from the start about what they want.
    Dating is difficult because of assumptions that if your one gender your expected to do this and if your the other gender your expected to do that.
    When people decide to Stop Hiding Behind Masks, then perhaps dating will experience the type of honesty that will give it a chance to not only take place, but perhaps even flourish to the next level.

  4. Love is a DECISION on how your going to view and deal with the Universe and its inhabitants.  Its a decision on the level of focus, consideration, respect, and intimacy you choose to develop in the relationship.

  5. Love is a surrender, willingly given, and it makes you stronger. 

    It is not an agreement. It is not an arrangement. It has no conditions, and can endure anything. Anything. 

    You will never be as vulnerable as you are when in love.
    You will never be as strong as you are when in love.

    People who can't define it, and need a definition have yet to know it. It is automatic. Consciously unconscious. It makes the mundane delightful, and the delightful glorious. 

    You can't find it written on a greeting card.
    You can't give it in a bouquet.
    It is not found coated in chocolate.
    It cannot be bought. It cannot be sold. It cannot be chosen. It cannot be resisted. It cannot be written about by anyone who has not known it.

    It simply is. Either you get that, or you have not known it.

  6. How often are we absolutely genuine or sincere? I find that letting ourselves be either one is difficult not just because we don't always know the other person but many of us are still trying to figure ourselves out.

    We play games with our heart, like we think it's smart. We forget to let go of our fret and get our feet wet to find our sweet duet.

  7. In this days people running so fast that they don't got time for love, no romantic dinner, nigh on the beach walking while the moon is lighting our night, watching a movie, go around the town together hands on hands :( , how can't people forget that. Sorry Amanda Blain not everyone understand the words of LoVe.

  8. LOVE is (naturally) like a hit and run game just like the Papa Bear do … so our old old old men use religion to LOCK A MALE into WEDDING first before doing LOVE (sex) … well marrital status makes A MALE to adapt to keep his family forever with HIS RESPONSIBILITY … just my 2 cent opinion

  9. A word with so many definitions yet for each person it they have their own. Socrates, Plato and even the Bible has difficulty answering this question. In a relationship, it is a word misused and abused. I do know this, it is something that takes a lot of work to maintain, to make it work, and a long time to grow deeper. People just don't want to work on it. They want the TV version, quick and effortless.

  10. In the 40-50 age group. There are to many Damaged Women from a Previous Relationship…… Every other Man in there life has to Pay the Price…… :-(
    They can't just get over it, and move on !

  11. Love is success of any difficulties. Also different types of love we go through. Many people around the world find difficult to find love, but when they come aceoss at one, they enjoy much love successfully.

    Andy Kepa
    Port Moresby PNG.

  12. LOVE is… the most wonderful feeling you will ever experience in your Life. So magnificent and totally consuming of ones spirit , mind, and body All at once…without any hesitation or fault. LOVE is what we humans live and long for…it is like your most wildest dreams come true but yet you are still asleep..almost like winning the Big Game Lottery for mega millions but without earning a cent. Thats how Love goes…it is wild and untamed lest your a senior citizen already …then love is peaceful and eternal bliss tranquility and joy…all wrapped in warmth and smile of your lifelong Friend and partner.

    ACE RockStaRR

  13. The true love not depends on the Age or something, The true love depends on Mutual understanding, Behaviors, Soul-Trust, Loyalty in between human, Respects, Etc… Aright n Did U got it Amanda ? Good luck buddy…

  14. Your post reminds me of a song called, Where Have All the Cowboys Gone, by Paula Cole. It's probably harder to date these days because we are all exposed to such unachievable standards that we see in media that our parents never saw. Everyone is looking for those incredibly perfect people that we see in ads, TV and movies everyday. Just my humble opinion.

  15. Your post reminds me of a song called, Where Have All the Cowboys Gone, by Paula Cole. It's probably harder to date these days because we are all exposed to such unachievable standards that we see in media that our parents never saw. Everyone is looking for those incredibly perfect people that we see in ads, TV and movies everyday. Just my humble opinion.

  16. Hmmm, "engage me in intelligent discussions." Isn't on that list.  Neither is "spend hours exploring the natural world."  Nor is "cater to our mutual physical needs."

    Sorry, I can make my own bed and pack my own lunch.  But there's a lot more to a relationship than kissing and hugging.  If you settle for someone whose skill set ends at making beds and packing lunches, you've married your maid.

  17. Hmmm, "engage me in intelligent discussions." Isn't on that list.  Neither is "spend hours exploring the natural world."  Nor is "cater to our mutual physical needs."

    Sorry, I can make my own bed and pack my own lunch.  But there's a lot more to a relationship than kissing and hugging.  If you settle for someone whose skill set ends at making beds and packing lunches, you've married your maid.

  18. Love is what happens after novelty wears off……..Find some one who is not burden by debt, who has realistic expectation in life, like raising a family, and willing go through the trails of life. Peace and love:

  19. Love is what happens after novelty wears off……..Find some one who is not burden by debt, who has realistic expectation in life, like raising a family, and willing go through the trails of life. Peace and love:

  20. It isn't about the destination. It's about the journey. 

    Ok. If you're a young guy, you need the destination to keep your attention. When you fall in love with the process, you're hooked. Trust me, stay hooked.

  21. It isn't about the destination. It's about the journey. 

    Ok. If you're a young guy, you need the destination to keep your attention. When you fall in love with the process, you're hooked. Trust me, stay hooked.

  22. Because when the "right person" comes along he or she is looked over. You can find the gentle and kind male, but what seems to attract women is the confident douche male. And as for guys they tend to look for the freak in the bed before they settle with that special someone.

  23. Because when the "right person" comes along he or she is looked over. You can find the gentle and kind male, but what seems to attract women is the confident douche male. And as for guys they tend to look for the freak in the bed before they settle with that special someone.

  24. "Knowing LOVE, you will let every thing to come and go. To be as SUBTLE as the BREEZ and to take all things with great courage. For just as LIFE has taught us all, LIFE/LOVE is GOOD in all case(s). Let your HEART be as open as the SKY.

  25. "Knowing LOVE, you will let every thing to come and go. To be as SUBTLE as the BREEZ and to take all things with great courage. For just as LIFE has taught us all, LIFE/LOVE is GOOD in all case(s). Let your HEART be as open as the SKY.

  26. Dating has become so hard because its all about sex or money a d that makes us all suspect to one another. Love takes work And the now generation is to lazy for that. Imagine a walk and talk at the park and after three dates you get to hold hands. Holding hands is magic try it sometime. God Bless

  27. Dating has become so hard because its all about sex or money a d that makes us all suspect to one another. Love takes work And the now generation is to lazy for that. Imagine a walk and talk at the park and after three dates you get to hold hands. Holding hands is magic try it sometime. God Bless

  28. It's because people are taking advice from the wrong places.  You would not ask for dieting advice from an obese person or financial advice from a poor person, but all of the time singles are taking advice from other singles with broken or immature relationships.  Go find you a couple that had been together for a decade, two, three, or more… get your advice from them and try the results.

  29. It's because people are taking advice from the wrong places.  You would not ask for dieting advice from an obese person or financial advice from a poor person, but all of the time singles are taking advice from other singles with broken or immature relationships.  Go find you a couple that had been together for a decade, two, three, or more… get your advice from them and try the results.

  30. Love has to move beyond mere feelings, which change with the weather and move on to a deliberate, fixed and determined act of the will, to chose to love, to be faithful, to put the other's need before your own, to make your relationship a priority not something taken for granted…. perhaps that's why, in the Christian Wedding service the vows are unconditional.

  31. Love has to move beyond mere feelings, which change with the weather and move on to a deliberate, fixed and determined act of the will, to chose to love, to be faithful, to put the other's need before your own, to make your relationship a priority not something taken for granted…. perhaps that's why, in the Christian Wedding service the vows are unconditional.

  32. It's not hard to date whats hard is to find someone that meets all of our requirements. There is no such thing as the perfect mate, we must be willing to give ourselves without guarantees we will get everything we want.

  33. It's not hard to date whats hard is to find someone that meets all of our requirements. There is no such thing as the perfect mate, we must be willing to give ourselves without guarantees we will get everything we want.

  34. Relationships are hard to have these days because money always gets in the way. Since women are more independent and seem to do better over all in their careers they have higher expectations when It comes to a partners earning potential

  35. Relationships are hard to have these days because money always gets in the way. Since women are more independent and seem to do better over all in their careers they have higher expectations when It comes to a partners earning potential

  36. To put it simply…..both those list require time. I feel people value, and believe, that another person is not worthy enough to give up their precious time.

    Finally being single myself, realize that's all I can give to someone special, and that's all they should truthfully want.

    This list suggests the bond between two should be a trade off of time. Right?

  37. To put it simply…..both those list require time. I feel people value, and believe, that another person is not worthy enough to give up their precious time.

    Finally being single myself, realize that's all I can give to someone special, and that's all they should truthfully want.

    This list suggests the bond between two should be a trade off of time. Right?

  38. love is: a man that would lay down his life for you. I only know of one who has done this his name is I AM. GOD. Savior and King JESUS!!!!
    now their is still a few good men out there they are the ones you wont find in a bar butyou will know them by their fruit look at their life you will see JESUS

  39. I kinda feel like Mike but most women have that one so called friend who knows what's best for them & they listen. My thing is if you don't know what's best for yourself you may have already missed him/her. You will never truly know what love is until you get to know that person for yourself. Love is something you must embrace to know it. Have your own experiences & don't be so judgemental cuz if anyone noticed we all have flaws, make mistakes, are human & can't please everyone. Remember that will be someone you'll have to live with, not your friends. Find your own, get your own and keep your own. What is love without forgiveness, trust & communication.

  40. Love is an emotion that is a culmination of other thoughts and feelings that screws with your body to make you feel all secure, warm, caring, compassionate, cuddle, compromising, courageous, stupid, act goofy, …. etc.   – Then you get married or join in a union of togetherness… then you do all of the above and add to it, pay bills, sit in traffic for hours, shop, dance class, hockey, soccer, etc…

    So Love is and can be many things  :)

  41. I think ppl think they are too complicated and very deep even when they cannot see the beauty out of them.
    Keep on hugging and smiling, good sex and social interaction will follow! ;P

  42. People will latch onto the current person instead of standing on their own two feet and search for the right one. I've had enough of dating myself and don't care if I ever get another boyfriend.

  43. Because dating has most of the "benefits" of marriage but almost none of the the commitment. By very definition, dating does not have that ingredient that says no matter what, I won't leave you

  44. B-cauze I notice either women are having really high standardz or yall wnt da bad boy kinda guys. So by thn u either gt knocked up n gt left by him or u gt the guy who has hit it with u and thn says cn we jst be fruends with benefits

  45. I would partially blame our media culture. With 24Hr news cycles, non-stop targeted advertising, and the frantic pace of life in urban environments we've begun conditioning ourselves for instant gratification, limited responsibility for failures, and an impossibly short attention span. I find more and more that the cultural malaise that this creates influences friendship, intimacy, and even my gaming groups. Luckily though it can be unlearned and buffered against if your conscious of it :)

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  47. Trust !! Baby , trust quote!! Not in a way of lust are letting your emotions take over . Even with the one u love, share the trust by u been humble unto the one you love, and unto yourself !! Love don't H U R T , our emotions and our feelings block the mind of seeing Trust!! You make say!! I done THAT but now what? When you give love when u feel it's not given back Learn To Love you To love other's by u sharing yourself unto one another Nothing, can come between that Trust, cause u not only trust her you Trust GOD Hello!!!

    2r
    humble unto the one u love. When's

  48. For me dating is not difficult, even at 50 I am nervous and look ensure my date enjoys herself, the problem I have is finding that someone again. I have stopped dating because I seem to hurt people in the end. I don't feel for them the same way they feel for me. Dinner, a movie, or even just hanging and having drinks and talking. Dating is not that difficult, falling in love is.

  49. I think it hard for anyone to meet someone because people out there tend to only think of themselves.. They don't understand the concept of what is a relationship and how it works.. I for am sick of all the mind games.. I been lied to soo many times why cant they just say they are not interested or be even more honest and say i just want a one night stand.. I never had a one night stand and have no intentions too.. I would rather u tell me up front what u want then u play mind games and end up telling me that is my fault we never worked.. Dating SUCKS!!!!!!!

  50. To many false expectations are put on to each other in this 21st Century. A relationship is similar to a business….. it should be worked on BUT with the addition of love and compassion for each other and not just sheer Automation.

  51. to many people have prior expectations. drop your expectations and your serenity goes higher and your choices become more enlarged. Its what we do in AA and NA. no expectations, no one gets hurt. So love someone not for their looks or what they do right, love them inspite of what they do wrong…caring

  52. Love is caring for some one else more then yourself. Love is acepting some one for the short coming, love is standing for the one you love when you know there wrong. Love is knowing that you have ro let some one go not because you dont love them but you know in your heart they would be happier with some one else, love is knowing they are cheating and lieing to you but your happy that they are living the life they want to live. When you love some one you learn to love yourself. You learn to respect it and guard it because with out it you will never get into heaven. Love is the only thing that goes with you and if you dont have it you can not buy it it something learned over time. So dont wait until its to late to learn how to love one another and care about what happends to them and hope that anougher loves you to care anough for you. Thats the sercet to life. Put that in your pipe and smoke it. Go Dogs

  53. love is not like that I think love as like a water .If you want this size as a container then this size as a container.Love as like that when you love your father this love one kind of respect and when you love others people this love various kind.

  54. As one who has re-entered the dating scene after 17 yr marriage, 21 yrs together total, I'm learning the basic communication & social skills I'm used to just don't exist today. Texting is great, but pick up the f***in phone & CALL! Talk! Very frustrated, but I'm a hopeless romantic that will always believe in love! Take a chance people! You could miss the opportunity of your life!

  55. Wow.  Im completely stunned by some peoples' replies.

    What is love?  Love is Love.  It cant be explained because it is different for each person, and it has different levels.

    The Chemistry of Love is kinda like the Chemistry of Biology.  You have to have the right ingredients, in the right order, at the right time.
    Trust, commitment, compromise, common goals and values, sacrifice,  and more.

  56. Love is very simple if you find the right person stop looking for love and it will find you true love and soul mates do exist I found mine after giving up on it when you just get escorted no lies no games no huge fights just trust understanding acceptance caring that's love

  57. you're looking for a cat, mailman, and a stuffed animal. Really if you don't mind walking to your mailbox, and treat your cat right all you need is just a cat. He'll eat spiders for breakfast.

  58. +Edwin Colon I respect your position. I respect you too. But no matter how hard we women try to be equal, it will never happen. I work in finance and I stress that I have to put twice as much effort to be recognized as equal to men. As for love: Love is just love. Love is. Simply like that. Were from men or women. We should all just be honest, open and be yourself. Accept a person as it is. Change yourselves and not others. Love is actually quite simple if you find your soul mate. If you're so lucky. People today forget words in bad, not only in good times.

  59. Biologically, love is an animalistic desire to procreate or either a humanistic need to show appreciation. Because of free will, we romanticize and poetically enforce it through effort, impression and imprinting.

    One reason why it's difficult to date in this day and age because we are becoming more disconnected from each other and lack the means of normal communication, particularly tactile contact (i.e., Social Networking, etc)…also, there are so many people who shun courting that there is no bond to reinforce love in the relationship.

    +Amanda Blain …I could be terribly wrong. :)

  60. I totally agree with monika it goes with my comment as well just be you and when love happens go with it there will always be trial and error Ups and downs but true love does exist be true to you and one day you will find someone that just gets you and you get them and everything before that will seen like a bad dream

  61. +Edwin Colon The only thing I did not like your words: women waiting for men to do something. What? I do not wait for anything. I have two hands and heart to do anything for myself and my beloved. Equal in  heart, equal in everything. Do not you agree? Love is the most beautiful thing in the world….. Sorry, I just feel that you are somehow
    bitter on women? Once again, I appreciate your attitude. We all have a right to express ours views. Free world. Many greetings from Zagreb, Croatia. take care and deeeep love for you :) ))))

  62. The word love is giving, unconditonal, true, understanding, forgiving, trusting, etc. Most of all love is God. If u want 2 find love, u have 2 find some1 who loves u as much as u love urself & u have 2 do the same n return. 23 years of marriage/ 11-11-89

  63. Increasingly people have become intensely self-indulgent unwilling to compromise and have lost the meaning of selfless-giving and self-sacrifice. Respect for others and self have been eclipsed by…"It is all about me…And what is in it for me….?" We need to get back to the basics of life……..! (smile). We need a faith that is perfectly grounded in Christ, hearts that are pure and a lives willing to love thy neighbour as we love ourselves…….!

  64. it's difficult because people are cultured by a morally reprehensible media network. People then sell false stories to each other and their selves in a vain attempt to find a relationship. Games end, but love is eternal. Quit selling yourself short, and seeking mindless tactics to "win" someone. Just get real and follow the squigglies.

  65. simple people are selfish and think only of there needs ive been with a few women like that and i just kicked them to the curve im worth more than that,i want someone thats going to stick by me when stuff gets difficult

  66. Because people are focused on looks and sex. If they focused more on common interests, friendship, personality compatibility etc., then people would long lasting and happier companionship.

    But people seem to learn about relationships on tv. That produces vain, dishonorable, selfish and nasty people that get off on hurting and using as many others as they can. On the other hand that also is revealed to everyone around them and they end up racing toward their end of life alone, shuned and hated.

  67. "On the other hand that also is revealed to everyone around them and they end up racing toward their end of life alone, shuned and hated."

    Joseph; its a truth; you spent time to educate us but  still we pass these stages without taking a lessen:  end up racing toward their end of life alone.  Yahoooo

  68. +Monika Ljubičić Who initiates romantic relationships the majority of the time??? Who asks who out on a date??? Most women wait to be asked out instead of doing the asking. I Love women. I'm simply waiting for one that is actually ready to be my equal in taking responsibility for our foundation building.

  69. : never had a single gf that packed me lunch, make the bed, and definitely not kiss when mad, more like I'll go shopping while you blow off steam. Sweet post nonetheless

  70. Love is like a fire devouring if we are not in control it can ultimately destroy the faint hearted! Once we know who we are no matter who we meet we will never hold on to that word LOVE even if it is our hearts desire! God is love and should be the pinnacle out hearts something I am learning the hard way!

  71. Well truthfully, Its not difficult, Its not a job,you shouldn't be trying. Cause nobody really means to have feelings for another, its accidental, spontaneous. Most of us will find someone not by actually meeting. Ya know simple stuff like returning your lost dog, or accidentally opening a door in your face. Dateing random people even with an already established attraction is kinda fictitious. You get up every morning and go to work, right? All I'm sayin is don't go back to work when you just clocked out.

  72. Love comes and goes. It is impossible to love one person for so long. No ones is perfect, and you are not as well. It doesn't matter for how long last a relationship. The most important it is happiness, you gotta have it during the months or years you are into a relationship. When it is over, it is time to meet a new person that will bring to you new experiences. Forgive what went wrong in the past one, then you won't get attached to your former love and always thank him or her for the good times both of you had together. This is my recipe for being happy everyday.

  73. There is but one answer. Is your mate willing to act selfless for you. Would he or she jump in front of a bullet so you could live? When you find that kind of devotion, spiders and such are trivial.




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